Becoming A Stay At Home Mom
When I was young, adults would ask what I wanted to be when I grew up. I would always respond with the same answer “A Stay At Home Mom”. Hanging with my kiddos all day every day has been my dream. I am proud and overjoyed to say that I have everything I’ve ever wanted. I have a supportive and loving Christian husband. I have two kids (a boy and girl) who are so awesome I can hardly stand it. I live in my dream house with giant windows overlooking a beautiful pasture. I live down the road from my favorite folks, a.k.a. my mom and dad. On top of all of that I get to spend every day with my sweet babies and I love it so much.
I realize that good dreams, and bad dreams for that matter, always come to an end. I know that some day I will pick back up where I left off in my career and join the work force once again. No use letting this Masters degree go to waste, am I right?? But when weighing my earning potential verses the impact I can make on the first 5 years of each of my children’s lives by staying at home, staying at home takes the cake. But don’t get me wrong… this is not a walk in the park.
I officially became a stay at home mom 3 weeks ago. Months prior, my husband and I had been toying with the idea when my son, Maverick, asked me one morning before I took him to daycare “Mommy, where are you going?” My response was easy “To work, baby.” Naturally, his 2 year old response was “Why?” In an effort to get down on his level to help him understand why, I said “So I can make money! And money helps pay for toys for Maverick.” His face suddenly got very sad and very serious. “Mommy,” he said, “I don’t need any more toys.” His insinuation that I can stop work and stay at home with him instead of taking him to daycare crushed me to my very core. Money is a thing of this earth. There are many things that I will not be able to take with me when I enter the great kingdom of heaven and money is one of them.
The Job… It is HARD
The job isn’t easy. In my short 3 weeks that I’ve been a SAHM, I’ve had to fall on my knees and beg God for help more than I have with any other job. This job takes patience. It takes selflessness. This job is 24/7. There are no breaks. You don’t even get to have a bathroom break. This is a poo-with-another-human-in-my-lap kind of a job. Privacy? Forget it! I have to share everything. (I actually have some double-stuffed Oreos that I have hidden to have during nap time… don’t judge me, I’m only human!) I have been a mom with a full-time job and now I’ve been the mom that stay at home. Both are equally difficult in their own way. Both are very stressful and hard. I’m being paid in memories and joy. These first 5 years of my children’s lives are irreplaceable. I don’t get a do-over. I am exactly where I want to be and I’m immensely grateful to the God who has taken care of us along the way.
“Older women likewise are to be reverent in behavior, not slanderers or slaves to much wine. They are to teach what is good, and so train the young women to love their husbands and children, to be self-controlled, pure, working at home, kind, and submissive to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be reviled.“
My mother was a stay at home mom. She has taught me what is good and trained me up well. I pray I am up to the challenge. I pray I will be self-controlled, pure, kind, hard working and submissive to my husband. I pray that I will honor God with this job I have been gifted. I pray this for all other stay at home mothers as well.